#trans guy who looks like a cis dude but has a pussy

[mandatory-ftmbreeder]

any advice for a gay trans dude who has a preference for cis guys? any tips on finding a man that likes boycunt cuz it feels almost impossible lmao

i also admittingly have a *slight* preference for cis guys so i get what you mean.

Generally i try and go for bi/pan guys cuz then I at least know they're into pussy in general. I've always kinda avoided cis gay guys cuz then i DON'T know if they're into boycunt (and a lot of cis gay guys kinda intimidate me. Like they tend to look so perfect and a lot of them feel very out of my league lol.) and in my experience cis bi guys seem a lot more chill. Some cis gay guys can get... almost borderline heteronormative with the way they go about looking for ppl to date/fuck? idk I don't really vibe with cis gay culture myself.

You'll have to be careful because some cis guys say they're bi, but are just chasers for super feminine and/or pre-t trans guys. If you just wanna fuck then they can still work but they're probably not bf material. (I have no idea what you look like so this might not apply if you're like, 5 years on t with a full beard lol.)

(A good way to test out guys is to ask them fairly early on what some of their fictional character (or celebrity) crushes are. That way you'll know if they're actually into men or just extremely feminine people.)

There's a lot of other tips i can give depending on the specifics of your situation. Like if you've been on t awhile and don't show your face at first, I'd include something like "I'm 5 years on t and if you saw me walk by you'd think I'm a cis guy". Or include things like "2 years on t, no bottom surgery" so guys know you have a boycunt but in a classy way lol.

I promise there's definitely a LOT of guys out there who love boycunt. Its not as hard of a sell as you might think it is.

feel free to message me or send another ask if you have more specific questions

[jrwi-transgender-swag]

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FISH N CHIPS DIVORCE SHOWDOWN !!!

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Chip

"gestures at him wildly look at him man " - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "Well he's a pirate and that's already very trans coded. He bases his personality and general vibe off people he looks up to which is giving gender envy. The only way Chip could ever be cis to me is if he was the token cishet but he's neither so like… Trans boyy (my words are failing me but you get it)" - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "literally the transest guy of all time (loser edition). tits out tuesday. man with tits monday. like. transgender moment real " - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "He was picked up by pirates at a young age pre-pueberty. He then spent most of his childhood in a gang. This kid was so malnourished everyone just assumed he was a guy and he went with it since his puberty was so fucked. My transmasc agender king" - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "fucking look at him. most transgender motherfucker to ever exist. we'll never know what his actual name was because he was named based on his first home, the black rose pirates ship. his tattoos go over his top surgery scars" - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "he’s just . he just kinda is yknow" - Submitted For Transmasc Swag

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Gillion Tidestrider

"4 of the 5 JRWI fans I actually know fall under the transgender umbrella and all of them are absolutely in love with Gillion so here’s got to have something going on there" - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "dude hes a fucking fish what else do you want from me. he has it all. the religious trauma. the swagger. the autism. he even has a cool fucking sword. his entire backstory is him being forced into a role against his will and only when he finds others does he get to fully embrace himself come the fuck ON" - Submitted For All Swag "he literally has gilded top surgery scars (saturn art that proves this even if it’s noncanon) that kind of trans swag cannot be ignored!! fucking!! golden scars!!! that shit kicks so much ass are you kidding!!! the koolest fish trans boy ever my goal in life truly" - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "same sorta thing as jay, he has this whole arc of changing from trying to live up to expectations to just being what he wants and thinks is good (very trans of him). also he's a fish guy and probably has no understanding of gender, at least in oversea terms. and he canonically referred to himself with it/its pronouns one time which. yes. i think his titles are like pronouns to him, like in the undersea you refer to yourself by describing yourself and your achievements (pretty sure that's actually a triton thing in actual dnd who knows). he is the chosen one and the chosen one was referred to with they/them pronouns for a reason (definitely because the chosen one is genderqueer and not just to be inclusive mhm you can trust me i have no biases, the goddesses told me themselves)" - Submitted For Nonbinary Swag "gives birthout of his pussy?"  - Submitted For Transmasc Swag "he is like sooo xenogenderr. that fish is just transgender im so sorry. too swagful not to be." - Submitted For Secret Fourth Swag

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[sobeksewerrat]

Okay so- if you saw my aroace chr headcannon list, you probably saw Adam from Hazbin Hotel on there! It's been a while since I have written an essay, but honestly I really wanted to expand on my asexual Adam thought and @kiichu asked me to so here we go ;)

[ Just. Don't expect any actual thoughtful analysis. I am mostly just grasping at straws and projecting because I kin the dude ]

[ Oh yeah and I will reference the Trans Genesis AU a lot. Nope, Stanley and I did not abandon it. Sorry not sorry ]

First things first, let's look at his first appearance in episode 1.

Needless to say, he was a bit of an asshole. But something really stuck out to me.

In one of the scenes, he was recounting a date/one-night-stand he had to Charlie (because of course he was).

He clearly seemed to be describing the dinner date itself in detail, but he literally just caps it off with "and then we fucked, and it was awesome".

This line can be read in a few different ways, depending on your view.

1. They didn't actually fuck, the woman ditched him or didn't exist to begin with and he's lying to seem cooler.

2. It wasn't awesome (*at least for him, but yk could go both ways) and he wasn't about to go into detail about his less-than-stellar sexual encounter (I feel. Really uncomfortable writing this, I am too ace for this shit).

3. The logical explanation of the writers not wanting to include it for rating reasons and because of the episode's already short run time and also because we as the audience don't really need to know that. Though I think that if that were just that, a better alternative would've been that Adam either continues describing the date or starts describing the sex and either Lute or Charlie (or both) stop him.

For my interpretation of the ace Adam, we'll go with the second interpretation.

Allos love pointing out how "asexuals can still date/have sex" but they always neglect one thing: that's not exactly how sex-favourable and sex-neutral aces work.

I can't speak for everybody on the spectrum (especially since I am mostly repulsed), but wanting to have sex doesn't mean you feel sexual attraction.

So yeah this doesn't disprove him being asexual, though I am aiming for a very different interpretation.

Sex-repulsed Adam.

NOW, PLEASE HEAR ME OUT I KNOW I SOUND CRAZY!!

Ace men rarely get any representation, and a lot of men (especially cis men, but trans men too) don't realize they're ace or are actively in denial about it because of this thing called ✨toxic masculinity✨

I don't think it's too much of a hot take to say that Adam clearly falls into a lot of toxic masculinity stuff.

Being literally the first man, the original dick (or the original pussy if we're talking about the tgau), he is probably expected to uphold these harmful beliefs of masculinity or at least thinks he has to to be taken seriously (or be percieved as cis at least-).

Therefore, he's probably is in deep, deep denial of his asexuality and tries to cover it up by, well, sleeping around I guess (*hopefully not with human souls because i don't need any of the implications that come with that).

But that doesn't necessarily mean he enjoyed it, you know.

Now I don't wanna go too deep into this honestly quite depressing line of thought, so to keep it brief that's probably why he wouldn't go into detail about that one night stand- even though he totally seems like the type of guy who would talk about this stuff in excessive and unnecessary detail (can you tell I love torturing this guy. I mean if yk the TGAU you probably already know but shush).

That or because a lot of aces literally cannot talk about sex seriously. It has to be a joke or about an ao3 smut fic.

*ahem* Moving on-

The infamous "Now, I'm going to FUCK you" scene that every Adamsapple shippers love (no hate to Adamsapple shippers btw, except @roryheart fuck you Rory /lh silly (I love you buddy don't take this seriously)).

Just. Just look at his face when Lucifer says it.

It could just be pure confusion, which is quite understandable tbh.

Or we could go with the funny interpretation of Adam being so autistic and ace, he thought for a second that Lucifer was actually hitting on him this whole time and he just didn't notice. Purely because this has actually happened to me before and I wanna project-

Moreover, he looks lowkey disgusted by it and just attacks Lucifer immediately.

Whatever, now we get to the ✨angst potential✨ of ace Adam.

Elaborating on the bit of toxic masculinity from earlier, maybe he thinks that his aversion to stuff like is why both Lilith (and presumably Eve) cheated on him with Lucifer, because he wasn't a real man.

And if we wanna get really depressing, all we have to do is just remember that his only purpose was to have as many children with Eve (and previously Lilith) as possible to populate the Earth.

Yeah, sounds like a total nightmare scenario.

I have a few other ideas, but they're really half baked and not really well put together and stuff- idk I just think ace Adam is a cool idea.

Sorry if this wasn't exactly the essay any of you were looking for but I genuinely just think it'd be fun and kinda interesting to explore really.

Btw gonna make "sobek rants" exclusively for angry rants and gonna repurpose "brainingsewer" for essays and analysis and stuff. Not that anybody really cares about my tagging system.

[tottymatsuno]

three of my favorite homophobic todomatsu headcanons ranked

3. queer but homophobic - hates seeing other people happy to the point where hes telling lesbians, “can you do that at home?” Posting on gender reveals “nobody cares that you guys had sex.” Telling dudes who look better than him, who are open and proud, “pack it in, fruitcakes.” Would beg and pay for lick any of their stomachs.

2. homophobic, not gay, but but trans. I think this is a funny flavor bc totty being trans is so canon to me, you cannot explain that gender as cis. Anyways an added layer is being homophobic but trans like, “you’re doing too much.” “This is annoying.” “You’re really loud and this the womens section, so you shouldn’t be here.” And constantly in the same way he tries to one up his brothers goes, “idk who these ppl are but im not one of them” (is clearly one of them) just hating to hate and being annoying bc he wants to be one of the good trans. Absolutely transmed, anti tucutecore. Wants women so bad it makes him look stupid.

Cishet - its just so funny to me. So you look like THAT. Talk like THAT. Dress like THAT and you wanna be a pussy slayer, and you hate gay people? I have to laugh. If this dude said a slur i’d automatically assume he could reclaim. I would throw up dying, if i knew him and he was being homophobic i would never take him seriously and if someone called him out for it id always defend him like, “thats todomatsu, he’s literally wearing earrings, pink, with hearts and capri pants you know hes not cishet.” And he’d be like “i am. Im cishet, robin i keep telling you im not trans and i want to have sex exclusively with wonen” and id pee laughing at him bc who tf says that dressed like that. Id be patting him on the back like, “its so funny every tine you say it.” He wouldn’t even know what to do. He’d be so conditioned that like if he tried to be homophobic around real homophobes he’d get scared and be like “wait i just think penis is ugly and hate anyone else who has sex or is happy :(“

[burning-sol]

Too much of a pussy to interact the post directly but um. Re: genderbends and feminism

I think you’re entirely right to bring up how easy that passive hostility can become transphobia but I also think the idea that most genderbends are trans hcs is a bit of a spiders George moment. We (you and I) have cultivated a space we feel safe in that is predominantly populated by trans people who will talk about trans things- in the wider fandomspace there are still a lot of cis people who completely misunderstand what a genderbend has the potential to be. Obviously the years have brought good things and a lot has changed for the better, but there are still a lot of people who do in fact genderbend a dude character they like into a cis girl and you can tell by the way they write her they have no idea what they’re doing and generally little understanding of girls or girlhood. But attacking all genderbends and making the assumption that they’re all that is certainly not the way to go about it; like you said, a lot of people actually have trans hcs and sort of reclaim the r63 trend. But it is important to recognize there’s a larger problem of media not having girl characters with depth, or having those characters but they’re massively set aside for a dude. There’s no shame in enjoying the guy character more, speaking from experience, like you said let ppl on the internet do what they want. But also indulge taking a deeper look at the women, and recognize the bigger issue. I will defend every badly written woman with everything I have but I will also defend every fandom-decided transwoman with everything I have as well. They’re sisters. Super Sorry if this is a weird ask I felt like adding my perspective, bc ur right but I see. More

No need to belittle yourself, I know how anxiety inducing it can be to reply to something off anon, what matters is that you were polite and thoughtful. So lemme address your point. Post being talked about for context.

I think I did misword my post, you're absolutely right, but what I was trying to get across is that I suppose I hypothesise a lot of "genderbends" may only be perceived like that from the outside without the neccessary context. This is based on how I reflected on my own headcanons and how they can be outwardly percieved, and also my experience in fandom. For example, my interpretation of an AU character (William Wight) could easily be viewed as a genderbend without the context of personal thoughts and the fact I headcanon William Wisp (the og character) as PRE-transition, especially since another character from that AU I have genderbent. So it wasn't strictly about genderbending actually being trans headcanons, it's about how if you're without context, genderbending can be a misinterpretation of a trans headcanon.

But you're right, I too closely conflated them, giving overall the wrong message about genderbending and invalidating the feelings of people who just enjoy the trope without the trans aspect. There's a lot of people out there who genderbend not knowing anything about transness, that could easily be a misinterpretation, it was based on my experiences and not any hard data. I also projected onto the people reblogging that post that they wouldn't have the eye to make a disceration between the two.. Which, I have no clue either way, who knows. But thankfully, I don't think any of this takes away from the point being made or hurts anyone too severely. I hope that anyone who feels misrepresented can still understand the post regardless of how I may have offended them, because the underlying transphobia is the bigger issue. And also, to reinforce it again, I AGREE with OP in the right context, I think it's a real phenomena, but I try to be critical of posts if they start to widely circulate without anyone pointing out what can be a potentially harmful idea.

Also to consider as a note though: genderbending can be a precursor to being trans as a form of experimentation. So yes, it is still worth taking into the consideration what you're saying about people who genderbend characters, you have no idea what they're going through even if they claim not to be trans, things can change. But even further beyond that, I focused on trans people for obvious reasons, it's shitty to be targeting a minorty.. But if you're nodding along with my post like, "oh yeah, it's okay if TRANS people genderbend characters, but ANYONE ELSE isn't allowed to" umg. Well. That can still be transphobia, or just generally a dick thing to do. Again, I just think we shouldn't assume that misogyny is involved when there are other incredibly viable reasons for genderbending.

I didn't even bring it up because I didn't want to tbh, but, also a lot of people who genderbend are just.. Into that. That's also a notable reason but again, that wasn't the point.

Btw, this is all coming from the fandom where people rampantly post abt an mlm ship and overlook the other lead that is girl. So. I first hand have experienced the EXACT issue being discussed, but I still wouldn't wanna go and make the wide assertions OP was making. In the end, we are all people on the internet in our niches making assumptions about wider groups even if we don't actually know jack shit about each other. Hence I preach love and tolerate, and to generally not judge people.

I hope this was a decent response and maybe even added something to my previous post. Or maybe this was a jumbled schlock of nothing that went off the rails, I'm sorry if that's the case.

[ftmbitch]

okok ok ur writing is really hot, uhhh so if ur up for posting more my prompt is: being slowly forced to detransition by my trans roommate during lockdown

i love me some t4t forced detrans so you’ve asked the right guy haha 

warnings: forced detransition, dubcon 

1.4k words (sorry, my hand slipped) 

you met your roommate through some friends. a lot of them are gay, or trans. you didn’t actually know your roommate was trans at first, he passed so well. actually, you thought he was the one cishet in the group, since you knew he was only into girls, and you figured he was cis. eventually, you were looking for a place, he was looking for a place, and you ended up living together. separate bedrooms, but only one bathroom. you didn’t find out he was trans until you went into the bathroom after he had unpacked his toiletries and you saw his testosterone stuff on the shelf. you hadn’t started hormones yet, but you still recognized that stuff from your other trans friends. you asked him about it, and he was kind of surprised. “oh. yeah, i thought you knew i was trans. i mean, i came out like eight years ago, so i guess i just don’t think about it much anymore.” you were a little surprised, but it didn’t really change anything. it did make you a little more dysphoric, though. you had other trans friends close in their transition to you, and some who’d been out for years, but living in close proximity with a guy who passed so well, and had hormones and top surgery like you dreamed of, it just made you feel a little sad. you were happy for him, but you were jealous. you knew he was just living his life, and that one day you’d be just like him. 

or, so you thought. 

within your first few months of living together, you felt a little put down by him. he’d make these passing comments about your voice, your soft, hairless face, the fact that you didn’t have to shower as much as him because girls- i mean, you know, dudes who aren’t on t, don’t sweat as much. in quarantine, you couldn’t get away from it. you couldn’t go see your other pre-t friends. you just had to stay here, with him. his comments made you a little uncomfortable, but not enough to say anything. he wasn’t trying to be mean, he was just at such a different point than you were and wasn’t quite as sensitive to the pre-t struggle as he once was. that’s all, right? that’s all, you told yourself. 

one day, you walk into the kitchen to grab a snack without your binder on while he’s in there cooking. when you turn around from the cabinet, you catch him staring, mouth slightly open, at your chest. 

“sorry! sorry. i just...sorry. i didn’t mean to.” you brush it off. you sit down to watch tv, and you figure he’ll just keep cooking. then, he comes and sits next to you. “hey,” he says. “i really am sorry.” he’s sitting awfully close. “it’s just...” he takes your snack and moves it to the table. you cower back a little bit, and he gets closer. “it’s hard, you know? being in quarantine. i haven’t fucked a girl in so long. i mean, i know you’re not a girl! and i’m not trying to fuck you, it’s just...” your face drops. he licks his lips, and reaches out, and gropes you. 

“what the fuck?” you shout, pushing him back, and getting up. you walk out, but as you’re walking away, you catch a glimpse of him. he’s staring. 

you avoid him as best you can for the next two days. then, he comes into your room while you’re masturbating. “dude, get out!” 

“i just wanted to talk about...um...wow. you shave down there?” you swallow hard. for some reason, you don’t cover up. “that would make me so dysphoric. why do you do that? don’t you want to look as masculine as you can?” you don’t say anything. “i mean, listen. i know you’re not on t, and i get that, it’s a pain in the ass to get referrals and shit, especially with all the regulations right now. i just- i don’t know. it’s hard for me to respect trans guys like you. i mean, you shave your pussy, you don’t ever wear your binder in the house, and don’t think i haven’t seen your skirts in your hamper. like, why even transition if you’re gonna do girly shit?” you have nothing to say. you want to argue. everything inside you is telling you to argue, to tell him to leave, to cry, to call someone for comfort. but you don’t. 

“you grabbed me the other day,” you say. he doesn’t say anything. “i thought you were straight.” 

“i am straight. and i think you’re really hot, okay? i know i’m supposed to see you as a dude, and i try, but when you’re all...you know, like this...i mean, your tits are so nice! i kinda like it when you don’t wear your binder. it makes me horny. but, it makes it hard to see you as a dude. like, either wear your binder or i’m gonna wanna fuck you.” 

you talk a little more, and he leaves. that sticks with you. either wear your binder, or he’s gonna wanna fuck you. you’re gay. gay, right, when a trans guy likes guys. you’ve been stuck in the apartment for the past two months with this guy, and stuck in your old place for months before that. maybe some sex would do you good. but you have to pretend to be a girl? 

you don’t wear your binder after your talk with your roommate. in fact, you come out wearing a thin t-shirt in place of your normal “dysphoria hoodie” and one of those skirts he mentioned, that you only have because sometimes you need to think about gender, and visuals help. no underwear. your roommate sees you sitting on the couch, and he sits next to you. you don’t move. 

“hey. you look pretty like that.” you don’t say anything, but it feels so good to be called pretty again. all your friends call you handsome. you like that because it makes you feel masculine, but it feels fake. it feels like they’re forcing it out. this...this felt real. he really, truly thinks you’re pretty. 

he kisses you. he gropes you. he puts his hand under your skirt. you let him. you like it. 

“what’s your real name?” he whispers in your ear. 

“please,” you whisper. “please, you can touch me, but please don’t call me by my deadname. i hate it so much, i-” 

“what’s your real name?” he demands. you’re so wet. you tell him. he repeats it. he says it a few times. “yeah,” he says. “yeah, that’s what i’m calling you from now on. that’s who lives here now, okay? she’s my new roommate. and she’s so pretty...” 

things escalate. you end up in his bedroom. after you have sex, you want to call your friends and tell them what just happened. tell them you had sex with your roommate, and he was deadnaming you the whole time, and he was misgendering you. but you don’t call them. 

he keeps doing it. you never hear your boy name out of his mouth again after that. you get used to it. you like it. he makes you feel pretty, and wanted, and he’s so different from you that you feel silly for ever trying to be like him. you know if you were around your other pre-t friends you might feel differently. but you’re not. you can’t be. you’re stuck here, with him, with this masculine, bearded, flat chested, huge t-dicked man, who calls you pretty. 

this goes on for weeks. weeks turn into months. soon enough, he’s helped you buy a whole new wardrobe to wear around the house. in the house turns into online. he has you change all of your social media to your real name, and all your pronouns to she/her. he takes your phone after that, so you don’t have to talk to any concerned relatives or friends who might try to talk some “sense” into you. he likes you when you’re a girl. you fucks you when you’re a girl, and you’ve needed that since quarantine. if being a girl can make somebody make you this happy, then it must be right. 

[shy-canadian-snowflake]

All trans women are really men and your comment on that Simpson’s post is dumb as hell. Patty is into women not men, not men that pretend to be women, not men that admit that they said that they identify as women but are still actually men... like you can’t tell that a trans woman and a man who “fake claimed” to be a woman is the exact same thing? Both were born w a dick, and lesbians aren’t into that? If you disagree you’re homophobic jsyk, lesbians like pussy & that’s not problematic!

.... I'd love to know how I, a trans Bi dude am homophobic?

 Let's break this down shall we?

 All trans women are really men and your comment on that Simpson’s post is dumb as hell.

All Trans Women are women.  What makes a woman? Is it menstrual cycle? Because there are MANY reasons why a cis woman wouldn’t get theirs- everything from birth defects to hormone imbalances. Are they not women if they don’t get it?  Is it hormones? Because if you can’t make your own, store bought is fine too and oh would you look at that! It will make you become a woman! It will change the way your body stores fat- like a woman does!- it will decrease your facial hair growth-like a woman!- it will soften your skin and make it less oily! Huh just like a woman!  And if for some reason that woman can’t take HRT, you can still become one with out it- interesting right? 

(BTW This info comes from the Mayo clinic!)  How you might be asking, well let me tell you Anon! A lovely thing called: 

D Y S P H O R I A

“experience distress due to a difference between experienced or expressed gender and sex assigned at birth (gender dysphoria)” -Mayo Clinic

No cis man has this. A trans woman would have this, making them trans! At some level- physical, emotional, society wise, a trans person would have to have this to be legally trans! At least where I am from. I am a man who is trans, and I have in my medical papers that I have been diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria- and don’t worry hun, they made sure to check me for 110 other things before saying yes I do have Dys-

From my understanding in this episode- which, no I have not watched- this person NEVER EXPERIENCES DYS! No trans woman would ever say “"But as the man I am" because they ARE NOT A MAN!  Both were born w a dick, and lesbians aren’t into that? If you disagree you’re homophobic jsyk, lesbians like pussy & that’s not problematic! 

Question: If a cis woman is in some kind of accident and her “pussy” is so severely damage that it’s not longer a “pussy”, would her lesbian gf no longer love her because she no longer has a “pussy”? Or if she didn’t have a GF, and just met a girl, would a lesbian turn her down because her “pussy” isn’t “right?” 

And I thought that lesbians liked woman, not objectifying their sexual organs!  I’m going to use myself as an example here:  I fell for this guy, lets call him John, and after 4-5 months of talking, I found out that John wasn’t cis! Was I surprised, yes, did I all of a sudden see him as a woman and only for his sexual organs? No! Because John was planing on taking T, and getting the surgeries to make his dys better and to be seen as a man.

Sure for some people that is a make or break- and I understand that! Some people really don’t care what’s in your pants, and some do. 

[deliadexaerisofficialuniver-blog]

Who do I date?

I mostly date women and nonbinary people, but I also date men. Why mostly women and nonbinary people? IDK. Maybe I’m just more particular about what I find attractive in a man than I am with regards to people of other genders. Maybe it’s just been my experience that many more men are assholes, while many women who like women are awesome, and nonbinary people are just in general cool as fuck. Not gonna say I’ve never met a lesbian who’s an asshole, or a nonbinary person who’s an asshole, just seems pretty run of the mill with men. 90% of men bore me to tears with appearances though, so I can’t say that has nothing to do with it. But then, if he’s pretty and glammy and stylish in a Davey Havok sort of way, or metal in like pretty fucking beard and long hair sort of way, or fuck, even just a huge nerd in an Arin Hanson, or Danny Avidan-ish sort of way, I’m wet and ready to be pounded or go down on some man-pussy. (Or just, you know, go to my room and cry a river that Suzy Hanson exists...) Meanwhile, I see trans women, I see cis women, and it’s just this sea of “wow, she’s hot,” and “dang, she’s cute,” and “WTF, how do you get away with being so adorable???!!!” I see nonbinary people and it’s similarly this sea of “OMG, how does such adorable and cute and unique variety of human beings exist?!” punctuated with an occasional “Wow, usually I’d say cute, but somehow you make that quirk look incredibly hot.” I don’t want to reduce my attractions to whom I suddenly spring a wettie for or not, let’s face it, I don’t date anyone that I don’t at least find cute by my own standards of what “cute” is to me, which isn’t always “conventional” by any means, regardless of gender, and I’m just gonna go out there and say that there’s a lot of distinction in what it’s like dating a man vs. dating a woman vs. dating a nonbinary person which has nothing to do with looks, styles, or any of that superficial crap. Like I said a lot of guys are assholes, and a some of them are hot. Some guys are awesome wonders of “Wow, someone raised you right, and it’s adorable to watch you dude your dudely dudeliness,” regardless of whether they meet any standards of looks or not. Meanwhile Nonbinary people are this just lovely sea of unique and splendid quirk and variety where you never what’s coming next, which is just the most awesome thing in the world, and as a woman, dating another woman just comes with this lovely homey feeling of a bond that transcends spirituality and time and the gods themselves, even if it can also at times come with explosions of raw emotion, the likes of which only two women together could ever be strong enough to endure... But then it’s all worth it again because you love each other in a way that no mortal could ever comprehend, and you’re suddenly lost again in a sea of blankets until “OMG! New episodes of our favorite show,” or “OMG this is my favorite song!” or “ OMG CAT!!!” (Which is also one of the best parts of being in a lesbian relationship IMO.) I’m definitely pan, I guess just a lot of men need to up their game. Everyone else has got this shit figured out.

[axolotlspoem]

gary goodspeed is trans, and i can prove it

there might seem like there’s holes in the theory from the get-go because of show scenes but consider: there aren’t and i’ll explain it all

ive seen this hc around a couple times so if anyone else made this post (which someone probably did by now) i am sorry 

first, the most damning piece of evidence: he has... an UNDERCUT. that’s like... the haircut every trans man ever will get at some point or another. that basically proves it right there

ok, ok. i’ll get to the more serious evidence now

in episode 6, in that one video message, he not only wraps the towel around his chest but he also has one of those hair bun things. amab guys typically... do not know how to do that honestly

but what cis guy would cover their chest? they just wrap towels around their waists! it’s most likely a force of habit, even though gary obviously had top surgery, since he was wearing a towel around his waist later. (and as to the switch, the recording was obviously much before the show starts, so he gained confidence since then and/or stopped caring)

“but where are the scars?”

there are spaceships and intergalactic travel in this universe. technology has evolved; who says surgeries leave scars anymore? more relevant: a robot arm not built to be a human prosthesis was attached to gary very easily; so obviously medical tech has evolved a lot

“but he was called by gary in flashbacks, and had a male sounding voice?”

he could’ve realized he was trans at a young age, and for the voice... a) some afab people have androgynous sounding voices and b) i hate to go meta, but cartoon children never ever sound like actual children

also this might be a little bit of a reach but yknow that one scene where avocato stabbed him with a needle? gary seemed really.... nonplused to see it there. like, yeah, he was mad about it being there, but he wasn’t disturbed or anything. if he was, he’d be super dramatic about it (see: the arm scene.) its almost as if he might be familiar with needles?

BUT WAIT! what about that scene where avocato commented on his “dick situation?” 

immm going to explain this under the cut because it goes into explaining what genitals looks like so-

so the obvious first answer is, “bottom surgery.” no dice, trust me. we’ve seen gary naked with his legs apart. it would’ve been in-frame if it was there. there’s no way he has a dick too small to be in frame, because let’s be real- he pays for bottom surgery, he gets his money’s worth. 12 inches MINIMUM

second, less likely answer might be “avocato saw the vagina and the “dick situation” is the fact that its missing"

well... yes and no

gary is obviously on T. with how he looks and all, he’s on T and is probably still on T while on the galaxy one (it was deemed medically necessary id bet)

now, if you go on T and you don’t have bottom surgery, the clitoris starts to grow an inch or two. and when it grows, it looks exactly like a tiny little penis. except, in the wrong place, and there’s also a vagina. that was probably what the dick situation was. 

avocato’s a ventrexian; i doubt he knows that what i just described could happen to a human. he just knows “the one that sticks out is a dick and the one that sticks in is a pussy” and he thinks that all dudes have dicks and all girls have vaginas because once again, limited human knowledge, he doesnt know what a trans person is. so he was confused out of his mind when he saw both and also the dick is in the wrong place and Where Are The Balls and all that junk

(and gary showed it off proudly because i bet he was proud he could pass it off as a dick)

tldnr he’s trans; you cant change my mind

[girlcockcre8t0rr]

You can’t just remove gender from peoples heads. You believe that gender is so oppressive, but it’s not just because men are evil and bad. Evil doesn’t really exist, men suck because the structure of manhood sucks. I know a lot of amazing people that make me feel very safe that have penises. I have become more compassionate, And understanding since going on testosterone and finally feeling at home in myself. I don’t care if no one ever sees me as the same thing as a cis man. I love my masculinity and the joy I find from being an androgynous trans guy isn’t something I would give away in order to destroy the binary in some pure way. Destroying the binary is me delivering pizza and seeing the confused look on peoples faces but just starting a short friendly conversation and not explaining my gender. Trans people aren’t scary. We’re living our lives as ourselves the best we can in the context the binary we were raised under.

Gender isn’t just in your head it’s also contextual. You can’t stop people from thinking I’m a man. You can’t stop yourself from seeing me and not being able to see a woman. I was never female but I do have a pussy. When cishets realize that there aren’t different ways to treat people, the social dysphoria all queer people feel when we aren’t seen will dissolve.

I like that people are more wary of me on the street now that I might be a dude, I worry about inflicting fear, but I use my power as a potential male to stare down anyone who looks at the trannies I spend time with when we’re loitering at gas stations for a bit too long. I’m the one that deescalates with the cops, because I recognize the power of maleness and use it to protect more feminine queer people who wanted to escape masculinity.

My girlfriend isn’t a lady, I don’t think she would call herself a woman. But she is one of the most genuinely and joyfully feminine people I’ve ever met. My brain has no problem seeing her as a girl, but I don’t see her as the same as a cis woman at all. She chose femininity, I know what it’s like to have it forced on you.

Smash the gender boxes, pick up whatever gives you joy and throw away everything you hate. Build a new self out of the ashes of the old world and maybe our children can be nothing and escape gender completely. You can’t make people just forget their brainwashing. Patriarchy isn’t bad because of some fatal flaw in the penis brain it’s because of the power and our popular ideal of masculinity. Walking around looking like not quite a dude is dangerous. Men try and enforce manhood on me but I don’t want their masculinity. I’m perfectly happy with my shrunken tits n fat juicy faggot ass and trannies fuck me right, idc if cis people want to fuck me, I might do it but i just let them come on to me.

The main problem with terfs ideology is that it assumes that it’s possible to completely deconstruct gender instantly.

Gender and sexuality and the words we used to describe them are always evolving with our societies because who we are gender wise and sexually only has meaning observably in social context. We use gender to communicate what kind of person we are.

Being gender nonconforming in any capacity unapologetically, authentically, and joyfully and facing that aggression towards power, not each other is therefore how we deconstruct gender.

We all feel trapped. We just can’t agree on how to escape. Let’s talk about it more together. I love each and every lost lonely self doubting queer in the world that is aching for real loving community. I want to help make that happen. I love you. Come home.

You’ve been lost for a while, it’s ok. You hurt us, but we’ll forgive you. Block the harassers, delete your hate, and move on. That’s all it takes. We’re all over, waiting for you to find us. But you’re going to have to do some of it offline.

Transgenderism is how we transition from gender, not to gender. Think transcend.

[hedonistink]

HedonistInk’s Guide To Writing Trans Men Having Sex

I wrote this up in response to another post but it really should have its own post here on my blog. The topic? Sex scenes involving trans guys, how to write them, and how not to write them.

There’s been a lot of trans male headcanons popping up in fandoms lately. And that’s awesome! As a trans guy myself, I love seeing trans headcanons by both cis and trans people! And there’s been a lot of fics & art involving trans dudes having sex popping up lately. And that’s awesome too! Hell yeah we can get down and do the do! Unfortunately... many of these headcanons, art pieces, & fics don’t portray trans guys, their bodies, and their sex lives accurately. And that’s... not so awesome. There’s some pretty icky stereotypes and commonalities going around. So I’m here to shed a little light on trans men and how we get down.

First, I’d like to start by saying this content is of a mature nature, please exercise reader discretion before deciding to read it and follow your local laws & restrictions regarding such content.

Second, I’d like to note that my ask box is always open to questions if anybody wants to fact-check their trans fic with an actual trans dude. I’m more than willing to help educate.

Now, on to the lesson!

HedonistInk’s Guide To Writing Trans Men Having Sex:

SEXUAL ORIENTATION: Trans guys come in all sexual orientations.

If a trans man is having sex with a man, whether that man is cis or trans, that is gay sex. They’re both men. Having gay sex.

If a trans man is having sex with a woman, whether that woman is cis or trans, that is straight sex. It’s a man and a woman. That’s straight sex.

Trans guys can most often be found fucking: gay men, bi/pan men, straight women, & bi/pan women. In other words: People who are attracted to men.

TERMINOLOGY: My number one issue with people who aren’t trans guys (eg: cis, nb, etc) writing about trans guys having sex is the words they use. Topping the chart: CALL IT A DICK, NOT A CLIT. Seriously.

Up top: The most standard term for talking about a trans guy’s chest is ‘chest’. A lot of pre-op & no-op trans guys are really not okay with having the lumps on their chest called ‘breasts’. So if you’re writing about trans men getting some action on their torso, you’re better off talking about his chest and nipples than his breasts and nipples. 

The pole: It’s a dick. It might be a small dick but almost universally every trans guy I’ve met calls it a dick or cock and either dislikes or is actively squicked by it being called a clit. I’ve had so many conversations with other trans guys where we salt about seeing cis people writing trans guys in fic & calling it a clit. Sure, there are exceptions, trans guys who use the word clit, but there’s also gay men who use the f-slur to describe themselves. That’s a personal use. It’s not the standard. It’s not the common term. It’s not okay if you’re someone who isn’t a trans dude writing about a trans dude having sex. It doesn’t matter if you’re cis, nb, or any other identity, call it a dick. It’s a dick. Call it a dick. It doesn’t matter if they’re pre-T, on T, or if they’ve had some sort of genital surgery. It’s a dick any which way. He is a man. He has a penis.

The hole: There is no standard term for what a trans guy is probably gonna call the hole he’s got in front. I know guys using: Cunt, vagina, pussy, front hole, front door, boy hole, bonus hole, and so on. Personally, I like cunt, it’s gritty and abrasive and feels the most ‘masculine’ to me personally. That said, whatever term you use, try to be respectful in using it and understand that not all trans guys want sex to involve that body part.

TO REPEAT: DO NOT CALL A TRANS DUDE’S DICK A CLIT.

COMING OUT: Coming out as trans is usually scary. Coming out as trans can be dangerous.

Trans guys who pass, meaning they are perceived as men by people they meet, will at some point have to come out to romantic and/or sexual partner(s).

Usually these conversations will take place well before anything gets hot and heavy but sometimes things get a little carried out of hand and things need to pause so they can talk.

The last place most trans guys want to be when disclosing they’re trans is in the bedroom with someone’s hand down their pants as an “oh, by the way”. There have been many of cases of trans guys getting attacked in these situations if their partner freaks out over it. General rule? Don’t write your coming out scene as happening in the bedroom.

BODY BOUNDARIES: Trans people in general have a different relationship to their body from cis people by virtue of being trans. So since we’re focused on trans guys, let’s get into that.

Not all trans guys have sex the same way. Not all trans guys are okay with using some or all of the body parts they have during sex. We each have different body boundaries.

I know guys who won’t get shirtless, guys who won’t take off their binder, and guys who strip shirtless without worry. I know guys who don’t want their chest touched and guys who are really into receiving nipple play.

I know guys who love getting blowjobs and guys who don’t want a mouth down there.

I know guys who don’t want their cunt touched, guys who are okay with only fingers in there, and guys who are all about taking things in the front door.

I know guys who don’t want any penetrative sex, guys who don’t care where you put it, guys who only want it in the front, guys who don’t want anything in their ass, and guys who are fine as long as it’s only going in their ass.

I know guys who exclusively top, never bottom, and have gorgeous collections of strap-ons to fuck their partner(s). Yes, that’s right, trans men can top!

These are just some examples and there’s no standard. Every trans man will have different body boundaries that they need to discuss with their partner(s).

BODY CHANGES: The body changes a lot on testosterone. So let’s get into some of those changes.

CHEST: Chest fat does lessen on testosterone, but not usually by much. That said, they do become a lot more limp due to binding over the years. Binding makes breast tissue basically wilt, break down, and go floppy. If a trans guy binds, his chest fat will become more limp over time. Easier to compress flatter, but also deteriorates skin quality for future surgery.

BODY HAIR: Holy hairy nipples, batman! Trans guys often get chest hair, just like cis guys. I’ve never once seen a fic talk about a trans guy’s chest hair. Trans guys also get happy trails, facial hair, thicker hair on our legs and arms, etc, and generally develop average male body & facial hair patterns. 

DICK: This is one of the most noticeable changes on T, and also the fastest. Most guys begin to notice their dick starting to grow within a few weeks of starting T. Most grow to around 1″-2″ when erect. There are many cases of guys getting as much as 3″ but these should be considered outliers and not average. It’s the trans dude equivalent of a cis dude with a 10″ dick: possible but uncommon. Wait, erect? Yep! It gets erect. You can definitely see when a trans guy has a boner if you’re looking at his dick! You can also notice that it has a foreskin just like an uncut penis! The labia may also become more coarse and similar in texture to a cis guy’s balls.

FLUIDS: Not all trans guys get dry downstairs on T. Some do. But I know a lot of guys who’ve gotten a lot more wet since starting T. It happens a lot. It’s a 50/50 shot, really. Bodies are weird. There are some sloppy, messy, slick trans guys and some trans guys who have to use lube daily so they don’t chafe or even use an estrogen cream down there.

SMELL: On Testosterone, the smell of a trans guy’s junk changes. You get Man Musk™ within the first 6 months. Anyone who’s been near a cis guy’s dick knows what I mean by that: that really sharp, earthy dick smell.

TASTE: After about 6-8 months on testosterone, a trans guy’s fluids down there stop tasting like going down on a cis girl and they start tasting a hell of a lot more like a cis dude’s precum. It’s a hormone thing. So giving a trans dude who’s been on T for a while a blowjob is gonna smell & taste a lot more like blowing a guy with a really leaky dick than going down on a girl. Cause that’s exactly what’s going on. 

ORGASMS: Orgasms also change on testosterone. Guys who could previously get multiple orgasms pre-T often can’t once they start testosterone. But they do usually report them being stronger and more intense. 

HAVING SEX: Trans men definitely don’t have sex like cis women. Because they’re not cis women. They’re men. They’re just men with a slightly different tool set in their tool belt.

Like I said under Body Boundaries, we use our bodies to have sex in many varied ways. Blowjobs, handjobs, rimming, vaginal fingering, anal fingering, vaginal sex, anal sex, I could go on for ages.

If a trans guy is taking a cis dude’s dick in his cunt, it’s still gay sex, not straight sex, and needs to be treated as such.

SAFER SEX & PREGNANCY:

Trans guys can get STDs like any other guy and should use condoms accordingly. Trans guys having risky or unprotected sex with cis men may be prescribed PrEP, an HIV-prevention medication designed to lower the risk of contracting HIV. 

Speaking of STDs, people can get gonorrhoea & chlamydia in their ass or throat via anal & oral sex. This will not show on a standard pee test. There are special swabs for the ass and throat. Most doctors do not routinely perform these tests. They really should. But, back to the point.

Some people think trans men can’t get pregnant. This is a myth. Some men think trans men can’t be on birth control. This is a myth. These myths are dangerous.

Trans men who are having sex with cis men can get pregnant unless they’ve had a hysterectomy. The risk of pregnancy is decreased but not eliminated by T.

Trans men on T cannot get estrogen-based birth control but they can be on progesterone-only birth control. Most large trans-affirming health clinics will recommend this for trans men who have sex with cis men. Generally, this comes in two forms: a daily pill known as the ‘minipill’ or a 12-week injection known as the ‘depo shot’.

MEDICAL PROCEDURES: There are many routes trans guys can take in terms of medically transitioning.

For most trans people, the first step is hormone replacement therapy (HRT). For trans guys, this involves Testosterone therapy. Testosterone is usually administered via injection every 1, 2, or 12 weeks, depending on which kind, or via a daily cream/gel. 1 & 2 week shots are self-administered while 12-week shots are done by a professional. Trans guys who come out as kids or young teens may be prescribed hormone blockers to prevent or halt puberty until they can start T when they’re 15-18 (age varies with local laws & doctor’s discretion).

Another step for trans guys is usually top surgery. Guys with tiny chests (small B or less) can get periareolar (’peri’) or keyhole surgery. This leaves only a tiny scar around the nipple. Guys with larger chests usually get a double incision (’DI’) surgery which involves larger scars along the bottom of the pecs and nipple grafts or, less commonly, an Inverted-T or T-anchor surgery which involves the same scars under the pecs but an additional vertical scar from there to the nipple while eliminating the need for nipple grafts.

Trans guys usually get a total hysterectomy, removing the uterus, ovaries, cervix, and all the bits in between. A trans guy who has his ovaries removed must be on some form of hormone therapy (eg: testosterone) or else risks bone loss & osteoporosis.

Some trans guys may opt for genital surgery. These procedures and the reasons why some trans guys might or might not want one surgery or another is a whole complicated topic in itself. But if you’re curious, look into metoidioplasty (’meta/meto’) or phalloplasty (’phallo’). Tread carefully.

So, I’ll wrap this up with my most important point, again: If you are anything other than a trans guy (eg: if you are cis, nb, etc), DO NOT CALL A TRANS DUDE’S DICK A CLIT. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS SMUTTY, CALL IT A DICK.

And, as I said, anyone can feel free to message me if they have questions about writing trans guys having sex.

Tl;dr: Just be respectful and know your subject matter.

[Edit: 2018/02/21 - Updated Title to Current URL]